I
always learn something when I am able to fully discuss an issue, or even a
disagreement, with someone. At the very
least I learn where the real difference of opinion lies. How is it possible for two people with the
same information to come to drastically different opinions? The obvious answer is that opinions are based
on who we are. “Who we are”, of course,
is a function of our past experiences, the people in our lives, the decisions
we have made about our values, and even our DNA.
Yes, I
am one of those people who engage in “discussions” on Facebook. Much of the time, I give up after one or two
posts or when the personal attacks start.
Sometimes, those discussions stay respectful and civil enough that we
find common ground. When that happens, I
become more aware of my own views and how they are formed. In addition, the other person and I are able
to start or strengthen a relationship which leads to agreement on other issues.
Every
year we seem less and less able to engage in civil discourse. It’s more than an annoyance. To me, discussing our views, especially our
differences, is a fundamental element of our form of government. I believe in the collective wisdom of an
informed, thoughtful group of people. I
have grave concerns about American society today.
Your
opinion represents who you are. It
incorporates your values, your intelligence, your attitudes, your work ethic,
and your genetics. In short, your
opinion is based on everything about you and you can’t dismiss who you are by
shrugging and saying “It’s just my opinion.”
When
you express an opinion you have just made a statement about who you are. You can’t take it back. You can’t dismiss it. You have to defend it, and explain it. If you don’t you are denying everything about
yourself.
Form
your opinions carefully and be sure they represent who you really are because
everyone else will understand that they are connected. Never dismiss yourself with “it’s just my
opinion.”
